Sure, the guys may like you now, but there’s another girl who plays the role better - and is more attractive, willing to give up more of herself - ready to take your place.Īs Nick’s storyline and countless overheard stories at the nail salon have taught us, even if you’re the Coolest Girl Ever, men (especially the ones who fall for this shtick) will still find a younger, hotter, chiller, more lenient girl. Your inner intelligence soon takes over and realizes this part you’re playing isn’t making you any happier or more successful. You can only fake-love loaded hamburgers, macho bullsh*t and getting walked all over for so long. At some point, the Cool Girl has to ask herself, “What do I get out of this?”īeing the Cool Girl has an expiration date. You’re living in a made-up world and trying so hard to please men in a way that they would never reciprocate. ![]() Pretending to be someone else comes at a cost. (Amy Schumer hilariously touches on this idea in a sketch called “A Chick Can Hang,” where four guys pine over a burger-eating-beer-guzzling-dream-girl and realize they should just date dudes.) She’s the figment of a man’s imagination, another iteration of the Stepford Wife.Īnd the men who want her aren’t the right men for any woman who isn’t a robot. I put up with men insulting my comedic pursuits claiming, “Women aren’t funny” because more than wanting to be humorous, I desperately wanted to seem “chill.” And in the end, I not only lost myself, I lost all my real relationships.īecause the Cool Girl isn’t real. I had whatever-he-is-having and then miserably threw it up later to maintain a size 26 jean (but let’s not go there today). I loved giving blowjobs and "not caring" afterward. I randomly started loving the Giants (I had three notable players’ stats on rotation that I would recite). At some point in all our female lives, thanks to high-school male conditioning and the visible attention other Cool Girls receive, we’ve all tried on the Cool Girl role for size. Maybe it was because I wasn’t her maybe it was because all the boys surrounded her maybe it was because deep down I knew it was all an act, but I couldn’t make it work for me. Most tellingly though, she was the one whom all the guys praised for being so impossibly f*cking cool. She was the one playing down her intelligence, wearing a sports jersey the day after the big winning game and smiling while ordering the fattest slice of anything our school cafeteria offered. Growing up, I was always hyperconscious of the Cool Girl in the room. It takes a certain kind of insecurity to want to go through life living that passively. She’s supposed to take on his perspective. ![]() She may have their attention, but she’s useless when it comes to setting things into action.īy her very nature, the Cool Girl isn’t supposed to make big decisions or offer a different perspective. While the Cool Girl falsely believes she has the control over the men because she can make them want her, in reality, the Cool Girl is powerless. As Amy’s character proves, you don’t move the needle by disappearing completely. It gives him the power to keep doing so, and the power to shut women up. This won’t get your voice across or make you more of a person or change the fact that your boyfriend still criticizes your appearance. ![]() If history has taught us anything, it’s that this grin-and-bear-it attitude won’t get you anywhere. This just set women back, like, 40 years. Later, in an interview with Vulture, Gillian Flynn describes the Cool Girl mentality: It’s the putting up with machismo bullsh*t, and smiling and nodding when you know better. Go ahead, sh*t on me, I don’t mind, I’m the Cool Girl. Hot and understanding.Ĭool Girls never get angry they only smile in a chagrined, loving manner and let their men do whatever they want. The novel’s exploration of the Cool Girl does more than just expose another female stereotype it shows how being that girl ultimately gets you nowhere.įlynn, using Dunne as her vehicle, writes, Men always say that as the defining compliment, don’t they? She’s a cool girl.īeing the Cool Girl means I am a hot, brilliant, funny woman who adores football, poker, dirty jokes, and burping, who plays video games, drinks cheap beer, loves threesomes and anal sex, and jams hot dogs and hamburgers into her mouth like she’s hosting the world’s biggest culinary gang bang while somehow maintaining a size 2, because Cool Girls are above all hot. In it, we discover the root of Amy Dunne’s crazy: She’s sick of playing the part of the "Cool Girl." But what’s even more sickening to her (and to the reader) is that despite Amy’s flawless assumption of the role, her husband Nick still cheats on her - with a hotter, younger and cooler girl. Despite coming from a psychopath’s mouth, there’s something very spot-on and accurate about the now-famous “Cool Girl” passage in Gillian Flynn’s thriller-turned-cinema-hit, “Gone Girl.”
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